Right now

Grounding first. Information can wait.

Nothing on this page will show you anything frightening. Do one thing, not all of them.

Paced breathing

Longer out-breaths than in-breaths. If counting makes it worse, stop counting.

Six small things

  • Put both feet flat on the floor. Press down a little.
  • Name five neutral objects you can see. Just their names.
  • Loosen your jaw. Drop your shoulders half an inch.
  • Say where you are and what day it is, out loud if you can.
  • Cool water or cool air on your hands or face.
  • You are allowed to leave the situation and decide later.

A coping card you can borrow

“This is my alarm, not proof of danger. It rises and it falls. I can slow down, ask for help, step outside, or stop entirely. Stopping now is not going backwards.”

Your fear may be intense, but it does not make you broken.

  • This site offers education, not diagnosis.
  • A fear response is not a moral failure.
  • Not every uncommon fear is a psychiatric disorder.
  • Treatment should be consensual.
  • Exposure should never involve genuine danger.
  • Never stop prescribed medication based on a website.
  • Medical symptoms should not be assumed to be anxiety.
  • You never owe anyone the origin of your fear.
  • Progress can mean participating while still afraid.
  • Hard days do not erase the progress behind them.

If you are in danger or in crisis, please contact your local emergency number or a crisis line in your country.